Don't Trust Me Because I Don't Trust Me

"The ideals which have always shown before me andA third factor that affects the degree to which an
filled me with the joy of living are goodness beautyindividual may morally disengage and rationalize
and truth. To make a goal of comfort or happinessdishonesty is the environment and culture in which
had never appealed to me; a system of ethics builtone finds oneself - work environment, home
on this basis would be sufficient only for a herd ofenvironment, play environment.
cattle." - Albert EinsteinAs you reflect on your workplace environment, your
Some people routinely behave in unethical, immoralhome environment, and your recreational
and untrustworthy behaviors and hardly everenvironment, what is the culture around dishonesty,
experience one scintilla of guilt. How is this so?cheating, lying, or behaving unethically? What are the
There's a growing body of evidence that says suchtacit, subtle, silent or unwritten rules that reflect
folks "disengage" from their core values, detour fromimmorality, illegality, dishonesty and unethical
their moral compass and, more than that, consciouslybehavior? Is moral disengagement a
"forget" information that would otherwise limit their"business-as-usual" strategy? Is there a growing
inappropriate behavior.sense of pervasive dishonesty?
It's quite evident many folks behave dishonestly andGiven the permissive nature of our culture, the
then rationalize their dishonest behavior in a way thatstrong force of peer pressure and the almost
let's them off the "honesty" hook.obsessive need for folks to "fit in" or "stand out" and
No longer are the criminals the only rule-breakers into be regarded as "somebody" - even those with a
our society. The "dishonest" live and work in virtuallystrong internal core value system - can often
every system and organization - finance, politics,succumb to an unethically permissive environment.
healthcare, education - even in our homes; our cultureWhere opportunities, pressure or "silent consent"
has become inundated by the "dishonest" anddrive others to lie, cheat and steal, many will - even
"untrustworthy".the "strong-willed."
The interesting notion, however, is that these blue-The antidote to moral disengagement
and while-collar folks use the same excuses asFolks choose to be ethical or unethical, trustworthy
criminals use for their crimes of dishonesty.or untrustworthy. There are a number of efforts one
Psychologists tell us that "moral disengagement" andcan take to support honesty, ethical behavior and
"moral self-regulation" lead to dishonesty. The deal istrustworthy behavior. Here are a few:
there are two modes of reacting when - either byConducting formal, on-going conversations about
commission or omission - one commits a dishonestethics and moral behavior. Such experiences can help
act: (1) one can link their act to their moral goals andto put a stop to some folks' moral disengagement.
values or (2) one can uncouple their dishonesty fromAsking individuals, (yes, even at home) to read,
their moral goals and values. We seem to bediscuss and sign a "moral code of behavior" or honor
experiencing more and more of the latter.code. Such actions can help raise people's awareness
When one behaves dishonestly and unethically, onewhich can stem the tide of unethical behavior.
experiences both a mental and physical reaction.Publicly fostering an open agreement by all to live the
Mentally, one experiences "cognitive dissonance" - aespoused values of the organization (or family, or
knowing that there is a "disconnect" between one'steam) and having open conversations with others
act and one's value system, and there is awhen they do not.
"felt-somatic" sense in the body that is experiencedReviewing processes and procedures that invite
as discomfort.dishonesty and moving to enact ways to prevent
So, what to do?inappropriate behavior from occurring.
The curious question is how do folks respond to theirPublicize behaviors and practices that have
dissonance and discomfort? How do they come todetrimental organizational and human effects
grips with their distress? There are those who "doIncrease the transparency of the discussions that
the right thing" and move into alignment with theirgive birth to organizational policies and practices. The
core values and moral code. And there are thosemore discourse, the less folks may engage in moral
who go through a "rationalization and judgmental"disengagement.
process, i.e., "moral disengagement", in order to clearInitiating consequences. There must be consequences
their conscience in order to view their action asfor bad behavior. Period!
"morally permissible."Self-responsibility - it's all about "me"
In addition, there are those who disengage morally inIn the final analysis, I am responsible for my actions.
order to benefit from another's dishonest or unethical"The devil made me do it" and "Everybody does it"
behavior (e.g., buying clothes from a company thatexcuses do not apply - ever. There is a direct
looks the other way, ignores human rights and usescoupling between action, goal and motivation (i.e, core
child labor).values). I and I alone am responsible for that
Questioning myselfalignment or misalignment - for moral engagement or
To what extent do I use "moral disengagement" as amoral disengagement. Whether I choose to adhere
strategy to excuse my or another's unethical actionsto my internal moral rules or not, that's my choice.
as "permissible?" And, why? And, to what extent doThe sad corollary of moral disengagement is that, like
I use moral disengagement to actually perpetuatea drug, the need to morally disengage can spiral
unethical and dishonest behavior - mine and others'?down into a hellish vortex leading to a life (at work,
The vast number of "hypocrites" who have surfacedat home and at play) of obsessive lying, cheating,
or been "outed" (and those who haven't­ yet) instealing and dishonesty.
recent days, weeks, months and years in the arenas"The needs of society determine its ethics." Maya
of, for example, politics, sports, finance and religionAneglou
are a prime example of the duplicity that moralLiving for the moment, driven by greed, caught up in
disengagement perpetuates.competition and consumerism and living in a
The hypocrisy is couched in the belief that " I engageworkplace and social environment that says, "It's OK
in more ethical behavior than others." Or, "I am lessto be a criminal", moral disengagement has become
unfair than others." Or "I have a right to be morethe "behavior-du-jour". When we uncouple our
suspicious of others' actions than they do of mine."behavior from our internal moral code, and detour
Or, "others are more greedy and driven by moneyfrom our moral compass with an "ends justifies the
than I am." Or, "I am more honest and trustworthymeans" or "everybody does it" mindset, we are
than others."putting our individual futures at risk. The Universal
Guilt, shame and self-regulationLaw of Attraction - The Universal Law of the Circle -
The underlying ego-need underlying moralsays what we give out we get back.
disengagement is to absolve one's self of guilt, blameIs "moral disengagement" the underlying life principle
or shame for their dishonest deeds, of theof the legacy you want to leave?
disconnect exiting between their values and theirSo, some questions for self-reflection are:
actions. When one decides to act dishonestly, theirIs getting ahead more important than how you get
tendency to morally disengage is higher than whenthere?
they consider another's unethical behavior. Simply,Is cheating OK if no one gets hurt?
"I'm ethical and you're not" - given the sameIs unethical behavior OK because others are doing it?
dishonest behavior.Do the ends justify the means?
The truth is that everyone, repeat, everyone, canAre you aware of the ethical standards in your
self-censure. Everyone has the ability to consciouslyworkplace? Are there ongoing discussions about
view their actions, and self-regulate, i.e., act morally orethics and standards? If not, why not?
not. Everyone has the choice to engage in goodDo you use euphemistic language to sanitize or
behavior or bad behavior and judge their actions.condone moral disengagement?
The choiceDo you ever use moral disengagement in your
The ethical and moral bottom line is whether onepersonal life to justify unethical or dishonest
chooses to activate their self-regulatory process - tobehavior? If so, why?
consciously consider their values and standards, theirDo you ever encourage others to act without (their
moral code, their conduct in the moment.considering their own) moral restraint?
There are those who choose to not engage theirDo you purchase products from companies you
self-regulatory process, to morally disengage. Theknow to be in violation of human rights or other
choice to morally disengage depends to a greatethical standards?
extent on the strength of an individual's core valuesOn a scale of 1-10, how trustworthy would you say
and their motivations.you are. What would others say? How do you
Workplace culture and other environmentsknow?
"It is not always the same thing to be a good manCan you envision a life where moral disengagement is
and a good citizen" - Aristotlenever an option?