| Back in the good old days (mind you, I'm not that | | | | themselves in another parent's shoes but no, not |
| old), elders would recommend boys and girls of | | | | these days. It's each for their own. It doesn't matter |
| marital age to someone they knew who would be | | | | who they're son or daughter marry so long as |
| suitable for them. Solely parents and close contacts | | | | they're children have got the best. Selfish I hear you |
| of parents would do this. Sounds straightforward and | | | | think? Well it is. Trust has gone out the window and |
| it probably was as there was this trust and closeness | | | | as far as I'm concerned shoved where the sun don't |
| amongst communities. However, this most certainly | | | | shine. So-called friends of the family are no longer |
| isn't the case nowadays. | | | | friends but are self absorbed individuals out to get |
| South Asian parents look for the most suitable | | | | what they can. When a partner is recommended by |
| partner for their sons and daughters, taking into | | | | someone whom by the way, barely knows the |
| consideration various factors that may be deemed as | | | | family, parents feel obliged to enquire purely on the |
| shallow in Western society such as level of education, | | | | ground of 'saving face'. They are continuously put in |
| religious awareness, what ethnic group they're from, | | | | this situation by know it alls meddling in other people's |
| employment background and so on and so forth. Of | | | | private lives. |
| course, these factors vary due to individual | | | | Such individuals are creating a divide or perhaps |
| definitions. Parents look for what they think is right | | | | adding to the divide in this once loving, close knit |
| for their children and reject what they dislike. | | | | community. Recommendations of prospective |
| However, this is very different when they | | | | partners for 'arranged marriages' are unworthy of |
| recommend someone for another person's son or | | | | consideration but are indecently chosen with no |
| daughter. Basically, they lower their standards! Yes, | | | | regard for compatibility. |
| very shallow indeed. You would think they would put | | | | |