It's Their Choice

As much as we may want to , we can't makechoose not to take their medications. As a concerned
someone else's decisions for them. Most of us canperson this is difficult to see, but most times a
distinguish "good" choices from "bad" choices. Formentally ill person bent on a course of action will not
example we know it is better to exercise than to belisten to you rationally.
a couch potato. We know that choosing to smoke isThe laws in my state do not allow involuntary
a poor choice.commitment for mental illness unless they are
If someone makes the wrong choice, we do notdeclared to be a threat to themselves or someone
have to "rescue" them by covering for them orelse. This leaves a long way between making bad
making sacrifices to see they have what they lostchoices and being a threat to yourself or others.
due to a bad decision. In fact letting the person reapAs a caregiver, family member or friend of a mentally
the consequences of a bad choice will most timesill individual keep your perspective. Realize they are
have the effect of choosing more wisely the nextmaking their choices, that you are not responsible for
time.their choices, and that no matter how much you fret
When a person has a mental illness they may not beand worry you are not going to change that. Be
making good choices due to their state of mind.there for support and act immediately if there is a
They may choose to take the money they need forthreat, but do not feel guilty for letting the chips fall
essentials and go gambling. They may go out in theas they may.
winter not dressed for the weather. They may